True or false? I have a smoking fetish. I’m not sure how to answer. I mean, I certainly have what it is that people mean when they say “smoking fetish”. So, “Do I have a smoking fetish?”. The correct answer is TRUE.
It’s also false. It’s false because the word fetish has a connotation and it’s the connotation that creates a barrier to my goal of being honest with myself
OK, suppose I embrace the definition but reject the word. I am not a fetishist. I am an appreciator. My appreciation is expressed by sexual engagement and arousal. Sound better? Sure does to me!
I have an appreciation — a joyous and grateful appreciation of everyone who takes up the smoking habit. I appreciate ex-smokers who return to the practice. I appreciate folks who persuade others to give cigarettes a try. I appreciate, among ten thousand other things, attractive young women smoke while who walk along the sidewalk.
So, “Do I have a smoking fetish?” The correct answer is FALSE. I have an appreciation of smoking.
Does that clear it up?